You don’t even want to consider this in the depth of your sorrow and pain, but the fact is, you fell in love: it can happen again. You CAN find another. You can spend some serious time thinking through what you really need (and needed) in the other. You will likely discover that your instincts about the other were there, you just chose to disregard them while being swept along in the passion and excitement of romance. Now, next time, when you are healed, you will be smarter. You will listen to that little voice and confront IMMEDIATELY fundamental issues of compatibility, and capacity to love.